The Pali League – “kalyāṇamitta”

25 September 2020 – The Pali League

A Lay Person’s Life: Good Companion, Noble Friend – “kalyāṇamitta”

  • KEY PALI WORDS TODAY
    • “kalyāṇa”: morally good, merit, virtue, welfare
    • “kalyāṇamitta”: a good noble companion, virtuous honest friend
    • “kalyāṇamittata”: cultivate good noble friendship
  • KEY SUTTA STANZA
    • “And what is accomplishment in good friendship?
    • Katamā ca, byagghapajja, kalyāṇamittatā?
  • It’s when a gentleman resides in a town or village. And in that place there are householders or their children who may be young or old, but are mature in conduct, accomplished in faith, ethics, generosity, and wisdom. That person associates with them, converses, and engages in discussion. And they emulate the same kind of accomplishment in faith, ethics, generosity, and wisdom.
    • Idha, byagghapajja, kulaputto yasmiṃ gāme vā nigame vā paṭivasati, tattha ye te honti – gahapatī vā gahapatiputtā vā daharā vā vuddhasīlino, vuddhā vā vuddhasīlino, saddhāsampannā, sīlasampannā, cāgasampannā, paññāsampannā -tehi saddhiṃ santiṭṭhati sallapati sākacchaṃ samāpajjati; yathārūpānaṃ saddhāsampannānaṃ saddhāsampadaṃ anusikkhati, yathārūpānaṃ sīlasampannānaṃ sīlasampadaṃ anusikkhati, yathārūpānaṃ cāgasampannānaṃ cāgasampadaṃ anusikkhati, yathārūpānaṃ paññāsampannānaṃ paññāsampadaṃ anusikkhati.
  • PALI TEXT OF SUTTA STANZA – LOOK FOR KEY WORDS
    • “yathārūpānaṃ saddhāsampannānaṃ saddhāsampadaṃ anusikkhati, yathārūpānaṃ sīlasampannānaṃ sīlasampadaṃ anusikkhati, yathārūpānaṃ cāgasampannānaṃ cāgasampadaṃ anusikkhati, yathārūpānaṃ paññāsampannānaṃ paññāsampadaṃ anusikkhati.”
  • LESSON ONE – LAYPERSONS NEED TO CULTIVATE NOBLE FRIENDSHIPS
    • The Buddha recognized the significance of having noble friendships.
    • He uses the word “kalyāṇamitta” when teaching about ways to have welfare and happiness in this life and the next.
    • “Kalyāṇamitta” means noble friend and comes from the Pali word kalyāṇa which means being morally good; having merit, virtue, and good welfare.
    • Friendships influence our thoughts, our knowledge, our attitudes, and our kamma.
    • Friendships influence our practice, our faith, our morality, and our wisdom.
    • The same qualities that The Buddha says should be in friendships that we cultivate are the same qualities he says will bring welfare and happiness for a layperson in the future lives.
  • LESSON TWO – NOBLE FRIENDSHIPS MUST HAVE FOUR QUALITIES
    • The Buddha says that a “Kalyāṇamitta” (noble friend) must have four qualities.
    • These four qualities are also what each layperson should cultivate in order to have welfare and happiness in this life and the next.
      1. accomplished in faith or devotion (saddhā)
      2. accomplished in ethics and morality (sila)
      3. accomplished in generosity and gifting (cāga)
      4. accomplished in wisdom, knowledge, insight (paññā)
    • The Buddha says that a “Kalyāṇamitta” (noble friend) must have four qualities.
    • He uses the Pali word “anusikkhat” which means learns, practices, and studies. A “Kalyāṇamitta” is someone who learns, practices and studies these four things.
  • PERSONAL APPLICATION
    • Do you have a “Kalyāṇamitta” type friendship?
    • Who is your “Kalyāṇamitta”?
    • How do they affect your practice, your mind, your wisdom, and kamma?
    • Who depends upon you to be a “Kalyāṇamitta”?
    • Do you spend time talking and discussing the suttas and their practice?
    • Do you help them to follow the Eightfold Path and morality?

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